Her is an ok app. It is a bit expensive and getting to your matches can be a little tricky without a subscription. My favorite part of the site is that I can use it as a trans woman to meet females and trans. Unfortunately, and this isn’t perhaps the fault of the her app, it can be tough market to meet up much with this app. I have zero problems meeting up with people on taimi and in the days when I had grindr no trouble there either, and I think I have met both more cisgender females and trans on both of those sites, strangely enough. Her’s primary user base isn’t as toxic as some others, but it also isn’t primarily geared to my demographic (although it gestures to being inclusive to a tran like me). Some of the females I have chatted with on her didn’t read my profile or said somewhat prejudicial things, but I’ve never been kicked off the app or anything. I just don’t think a lot of the women on her are looking for a trans woman, and if that’s you I don’t really know what to tell you as far as a solution. I see a lot more trans males on her than females, so I assume they are in a better position. it’s a lot easier to date men as a trans in my experience regardless of what app you use. However, I have had many likes and conversations and a few dates though her, and if you’re looking for your person, maybe you will meet her through this app. It’s definitely worth trying.

I had multiple issues in my brief experience with HER. First, they locked my account unprompted (the stated reason was my “network connection”?), and I had to send in my credentials via email to regain access to it. The biggest issue I had was with their user interface. It seems that they used to have a Notification Center in the app where you could see notifications such as when somebody matched with you and interacted with your profile. They no longer have this. So when I was sent Wildflowers by another user, the notification showed up as a Push notification on my phone but effectively disappeared once I navigated away from the interaction in the app, leaving no evidence of any interaction or Wildflowers. So that’s it? Goodbye, other user! Would’ve been cool to talk to you after you spent actual money to send me virtual flowers, but I guess I’ll never know. The nail in the coffin of my time on the app was the complete lack of assistance I received. The articles on their Support website still show that the app has a Notification Center…which it doesn’t. I contacted the support team and effectively got a “sorry but that’s just how it is.” Disappointment all around. A sapphic dating app is a much-needed addition to the world of online dating, but I think we deserve better than *this.*

OK I feel as though this app is a little bit too strict. We are all adults here. If we make a mistake or if you break a community guidelines OK flag is fair but give us a few chances because things can be flagged that shouldn’t be flagged and are flagged just because someone is mad instead of doing a proper investigation to have to beg for my account to be off hold is a bit ridiculous especially when you are part of a community that you felt. It was safe to discuss certain things. I don’t think the subscription is worth it due to the fact they are constantly looking for a way to put your account on hold, when your account is on hold, you cannot use the app. This also breaks any bun that you have established while your account is on hold. I do not feel like it is fair to flag. Every little thing. We are adults! There will be times where we will make a mistakes. We should not be harshly panelized. I feel like this is new to all of us when it comes to community guidelines I think that really no one really looks throughly at it and there should not be a penalty right off the back for it. There should be a email sent to the person that lets them know that they violated a community guideline, in other words I do feel like I met great people. I just think that guidelines should be adjusted. We are all humans and we make mistakes. Please adjust this.